For wives, this means sub­mit to your hus­bands as to the Lord. For a hus­band is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Sav­ior of his body, the church. As the church sub­mits to Christ, so you wives should sub­mit to your hus­bands in every­thing.

For hus­bands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleans­ing of God’s word. He did this to present her to him­self as a glo­ri­ous church with­out a spot or wrin­kle or any oth­er blem­ish. In­stead, she will be holy and with­out fault. In the same way, hus­bands ought to love their wives as they love their own bod­ies. For a man who loves his wife ac­tu­al­ly shows love for him­self. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are mem­bers of his body.

As the Scrip­tures say, “A man leaves his fa­ther and moth­er and is joined to his wife, and the two are unit­ed in­to one.” This is a great mys­tery, but it is an il­lus­tra­tion of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves him­self, and the wife must re­spect her hus­band.