True mar­riage is more than join­ing the bonds of mar­riage of two per­sons. In its right re­la­tion, it’s the unit­ing of two souls al­ready at­tuned to each oth­er. When such a true bond al­ready ex­ists be­tween man and woman, it is fit­ting that an out­er ac­knowl­edg­ment be made. This ac­knowl­edg­ment is the prime ob­ject of this gath­er­ing and this cer­e­mo­ny. We are here to bear wit­ness to the en­try in­to the clos­er re­la­tion­ship of hus­band and wife of these beloved friends who are al­ready one in spir­it.

You are now tak­ing in­to your care and keep­ing the hap­pi­ness of the one per­son in all the world whom you love best. You are adding to your life not on­ly the af­fec­tion of each oth­er, but al­so the com­pan­ion­ship and bless­ing of a deep trust as well. You are agree­ing to share strength, re­spon­si­bil­i­ties, and to share love.

At the end of this cer­e­mo­ny, legal­ly you will be hus­band and wife, but you still must de­cide each and every day that stretch­es be­fore you, that you want to be mar­ried. Make such a de­ci­sion and keep on mak­ing it, for the most im­por­tant thing in life is to love and be loved.

May you al­ways need one an­oth­er, not so much to fill the empti­ness as to help each oth­er know your full­ness. May you want one an­oth­er, but not out of lack. May you em­brace one an­oth­er, but not en­cir­cle one an­oth­er. May you suc­ceed in all im­por­tant ways with each oth­er, and not fail in the lit­tle graces. Look for things to praise, of­ten say ‘I love you’ and take no no­tice of small faults. May you have hap­pi­ness, and may you find it in mak­ing one an­oth­er hap­py. May you have love, and may you find it in lov­ing one an­oth­er.

This ring by its shape is a sym­bol of the undy­ing love that ex­ists be­tween you. The sub­stance of which it is com­posed is a sym­bol of pu­ri­ty, which shall ever char­ac­ter­ize your mind and hearts in all your re­la­tion­ships to­geth­er.

EIA IHO NO, KA MALUHIA, O NA LANI, ME OUKOU A PAU (The peace and seren­i­ty of the heav­ens be with you all). And so it is … Amen … and ALOHA!