______, I take you to be my (husband/wife), I promise to be faith­ful to you and hon­est with you; I will re­spect, help and care for you; I will share my life with you; I will for­give you as we have been for­giv­en; and I will try with you to bet­ter un­der­stand our­selves, the world, and God; through the best and the worst as long as we live.